If I gave you an extra day a week, or an extra week a month, or an extra year each decade what would you do with it? What kind of memories would you create in those bonus moments? How would make the time count?
Would you finally get fully rested? What about dedicating yourself to a creative pursuit? How about more time laughing with your favorite humans? Or perhaps you’d be more active in your community? Or take that time to master a new skill?
In my experience, so many women are missing out on this amount of extra life simply because so much of their time, energy, and money are exhausted on the following activities:
- Criticizing yourself for something you ate
- Worrying about a future food experience
- Thinking about the ‘flaws’ in your body
- Replaying old narratives of unlovability
- Eating (or not eating) as a means to cope with anxiety
- Entanglement in an obsession-knot about what you eat and your body
- Living under a heavy grey cloud of shame about yourself or your appearance
Go ahead and grab a piece of paper and a pen.
Scan this list and write your estimate (just your best guess) for how many minutes each day, on average, you spend doing any of these things.
What did you come up with? How much does it add up to over a lifetime?
But here’s the thing, if you are spending your life in these less-than-satisfying ways, it’s important to remember that billions and billions of dollars have been spent to convince you that:
- You can’t be trusted around food.
- Your body needs improvement, if not a total surgical overhaul.
- Eating A food or B food makes you ‘bad’.
- X Diet or Y Diet is the key to your salvation.
- You’re too sensitive and emotional.
- Pleasure is fine in small doses, but needs to be controlled.
- and on and on…
And yet you can outsmart billions of dollars. How great is that?!
You can break free. You can shake off these shackles of bullsh*t sold to you and uncover the ease and fulfillment that’s been waiting for you all these years.
Your time, energy, and money are precious precious resources. They are the stuff that either makes or wastes a meaningful life.
Here are a few ways to begin this redistribution of resources:
- Make being kind and tender with yourself the goal. Nothing more. Nothing less.
- Pay attention to what in your life is actually leaving you feeling well-fed. Think about the food you eat, the people you spend time with, the ways you move or don’t move your body…what’s filling you up? what’s leaving you hungry?
- When you notice your thoughts drifting toward self-judgement, treat them like a toddler who’s just fallen down while learning to walk: compassionately and with a no-big-deal quick reset.
- Ask yourself, where am I regularly spending money out of a sense that I or my body are lacking? And where might I spend that money in a way that reflects my enoughness?
- Join Feast and be a part of a community of women reclaiming themselves.
If you ever finding yourself saying “I just wish there was an extra hour in the day” or “If only we had a three-day weekend every week” I invite you to take back your life bit by bit, and bite by bite.