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Change the Way You See Weight Change


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Here are just some of the factors related to weight fluctuations:

Metabolic changes
Hormonal changes
Side effects from medication  
Socio-economic class shifts
Restricted & binge eating
Grief & trauma
Returning to or away from intuitive eating
Injury that limits mobility
Changes in activity
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Of these, only pregnancy can be seen with our eyes.

I have a client who, over the past few years, has gained weight. I can tell you that at least five of the above factors are present in her life. Which ones? I’m not telling.

She came to our session stressed about running into an ex-boyfriend and wondering how she’d explain her weight gain to him.

She doesn’t have to. She doesn’t have to justify the change in weight at all.

And while people will assume to know why someone weighs what they weigh, you know what they say about that.

Next week I’ll be updating my website with all new photos of me. It’s been several years since the old ones were taken and it was time for a refresh.

I’ve lost some weight in that time. Why?

Well, with a history of an eating disorder, some might assume I’d relapsed. Not so.

But the real reason is my own collection of the above factors.

What really matters, for my client, for me, and for you is this: happiness.

What matters is having a meaningful life. I have that. Increasingly, so does she.

Weight changes. It changes daily, weekly, annually, and througout our entire life.

It’s normal. It’s human.

Our society shames bodies for sure, but we shame bodies who change weight even more. Unless of course we idolize and worship the change (almost always a weight loss).

I want to make crystal clear:

Weight changes.
You don’t have to explain it.
You don’t have to justify your weight or anything else about your body.

Let your body finds it’s way.

Oh, and try not to assume why someone else’s weight has changed. You really never know.


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  1. teryll February 22, 2013

    Rachel – when you put it like this, it makes utter sense. Why do we keep subjecting ourselves to someone else’s definition? Why do we put all of our self worth into someone else’s hands? I loved this post, timely…as always. I needed the gentle reminder. xoxo

  2. Peggy February 22, 2013

    YES! Thank you for this article Rachel. I was just having this disucussion with a client yesterday…about how gaining (or losing) a handful of pounds can throw us in to a panic, especially if we have been working on an intuitive eating (non-diet) path. It triggers all the old alarm bells, all the raw fear that ‘IT’ has returned. Yet there can be calm stillness in remembering the ever-changing nature of the body. It is a constant moving mass, cells being replaced and regenerated all the time…The body of today is simply that ‘the body of today’…carrying all the stories of the day (and the days before), as you point out, the longings, the traumas, the bliss, the illness, story after story and our body is just responding…and as we love it, with our steadfast unconditional love, it will respond to that too! Such a great post and a reminder to suspend the judgment (both of ourselves and especially of one another’s body). Thank you. Peggy

  3. Esmé April 20, 2013

    I love this so much (am clipping it to my Evernote). Thank you.

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