March 30, 2011

I don’t recall how I came upon Tara Sophia Mohr’s breathtaking website Wise Living, but when I did it stirred something so primal in me that I had to reach out and meet her in person. We met over smoothies along the San Francisco Bay and, as they say, I knew we were of the same tribe.

When you read Tara’s writing you get the sense that she’s just a bit further up stream that you are, closer to The Source. Her words are clear, deeply resonate, and pure quality. I often say “she’s worth your time” – a high compliment when so much competes for our attention each day.

Given all this, it was easy for me to pick Tara to kick-off my interview series The Well-Fed Woman. If you want to know more about Tara, I invite you to visit her site, jump into her amazing new e-course Playing Big, or simply savor her latest great poem.


What are you TRULY hungry for?

For our world to become more sane, humane, peaceful. For the world to be safe for girls, for boys, for all people. For a world in which people are nurtured and cared for in a way that is worthy of the sacred beings we are.

What’s a craving that you previously denied that you now happily satisfy? How has this impacted you?

The craving to be an artist. And I don’t think there is a deeper craving in me than that, yet I denied it for almost ten  years. I denied it because my inner critic was a stronger force within me than that craving. I grew up making art of all kinds –  but when I went to college I couldn’t find a way to create comfortably in the highly competitive, hierarchical environment there. My center drifted over to my more intellectual, left-brain side, and that became my comfort zone. The more I was centered there, the harder it was to create. I became very, very afraid making art – so frozen in my creativity, afraid of failure, afraid of “not being good.”

Defrosting my writing muscles was a process, of course. It took courage (and the motivation of a lot of dis-satisfaction with the status quo), and a willingness to show up for the awkward period of those first few weeks of writing again. But getting back into writing has completely, completely changed my life – I can’t put words to how dramatically it has done that. It brought joy back, spiritual connection back, and a sense of poignancy and meaning to my life.

What are you a conduit for? What comes through with ease, meaning, and spark?

Poetry. I co-write poetry, and my co-writer is some mysterious force that I am very happy chooses me for a conduit.

Projects that help women’s voices be heard. The ideas/projects show up, and there’s a kind of ease for me in going about them – which is one of the ways I know that’s my right work. That started when I was 14 and got the idea to overhaul my high school’s English curriculum to include more books by women. And I did just that. And it continues this year with my latest creation, Playing Big – which is a labor of love, and is really the women’s leadership program of my dreams. It’s the program I wish I had – the compilation of all the tools and ideas that have been most instrumental to me on my journey to playing bigger.

People often tell me I’m a conduit for “wisdom.” That’s a word its taken me a long time to grow into, but people use it so often to describe me and my work — at some point I had to pay attention.

Favorite bite in recent memory?

We just went to Austin, and went to this amazing Mexican restaurant called El Meson. I finally understood what “queso” is meant to be. Queso on a fresh chip? Oh my goodness. Heaven.


Thank you Tara! Stay tuned for more interviews with amazing well-fed women.

March 11, 2011

I have a nice chin. Really, it’s not too shabby, as chins go. You’ll have to take my word for it because you can’t see it in this video.

This is my first video blog (or vlog). The topic: perfection. Or imperfection. Or how imperfection is perfection.

I’m a perfectionist by nature, born that way I think. I’m on a lifelong journey to use that for good and not destruction – as it so easily can be.

I see this in my coaching clients. Nearly every one of them. Waiting to start their dream project until the time is PERFECT. Waiting to feel good about themselves until they more PERFECT. Working and reworking their book proposal until it’s PERFECT (whenever that is).

Perfect is just a synonym for stagnant, for inauthentic, for pause….Perfect is a mirage.

So I’m redefining perfect.

I took a good look at the people I admire. The places I love. Even my favorite restaurant. Favorite books. I looked at the things that have squeezed my heart and lit me up.

None are perfect.

All are vibrant.

So there you have it:

the new perfect = vibrant + imperfect. alive + human.

So my video, the one where my chin is cut-off, the one I procrastinated recording for weeks waiting until….the light was right, my thoughts were clear, my hair was washed…

…it’s not perfect – far from it – and sure, I could have re-recorded it, but the message is alive….and it doesn’t need to be more than that.

The New (Im)perfection from Rachel W Cole on Vimeo.

Stay tuned for more imperfection.